I have a 4 ½-year-old great-niece, Reese. She’s really a great niece and has boundless energy. She also has a fierce, very strong independent streak. As long as we’ve played together, if I try to help her with something she’ll firmly tell me, “No Vickie. I’ll do it.”
She recently went to her first day of preschool. Her parents weren’t sure what to expect, but shouldering a backpack almost as large as her (with her lunchbox swinging from the bottom) she ran to school, stopping just once to wave goodbye (the video is priceless). I’m hoping she keeps that independent streak for the rest of her life.
But Reese makes me wonder why some women lose their independence as they get older. Believe it or not, there are husbands who call LegalNurse.com, on behalf of their wives, to assess our CLNC® Certification Program. Like the woman can’t make the decision about whether legal nurse consulting is for her without her husband’s help. And then this same woman is going to have to talk to attorneys – Guess what?… – by herself. Unless, of course, her husband wants to do the marketing and interviewing for her too, which might not be a bad idea. LOL!
Call me old fashioned, but men like that offend me and women who tolerate such Neanderthal behavior offend me too. Tom and I do consult with each other before big purchases (like my Gulfstream 5), but I hardly require his consent. While I’m kidding about the Gulfstream, I’m not kidding about needing my husband’s permission before making a purchase. Whenever one of us has a big purchase in mind, there’s often some negotiations, a sales pitch, possibly a PowerPoint presentation, a little buy-in required and (my favorite) an exchange of favors. But there is NEVER permission.
I’m Just Sayin’ and Not Askin’
P.S. Tom just said, “It’s always better to ask forgiveness than permission,” so I’m going to see what he’s got parked in the garage (LOL).
P.P.S. Comment here and share your feelings on asking your spouse for permission.
